Who I Am

  • In this activity, the facilitator should focus on making the girls aware of their qualities which will help in increasing their self confidence.
  • During the discussion, it should be emphasized and noted that women are generally so occupied with the housework and family that they don't even get a chance to think about themselves. Because of this they don't often express their feelings, desires, likings, etc.
  • Encourage all girls to speak and make sure not to force your own opinion on any of them.
  • It is possible that the girls will not open up in the beginning. The facilitator may start the discussion with her own experiences.
  • Wall Board or Flipchart Marker 
  • Paper
  • Pens
Time Required: 
One hour
  • To reflect on how girls construct their identities across their lifespan, focusing on the influence of their family, friends and media, and the importance of developing a positive sense of who they are.
  • To help girls set personal goals.
  1. Ask the girls to sit in a big circle. Tell them to close their eyes and take deep breaths.
  2. Ask the girls the following questions and tell them to think about these without opening their eyes:
    • a) What do I think about myself and how would I describe myself?
    • b) What do I like doing the most? And what is it that I like to do the least?
    • c) What can I do best? Can I tell others about it?
  3. Give girls 20 minutes to think about these questions. (Write the questions on the board or chart paper so that the girls can refer to them when thinking about their responses) and write their answers on paper (if the audience is low-literate, you can ask them to discuss these points in the large group or draw a picture that represents them).
  4. Invite the girls to share their write-up (or drawing) with the group.
  5. After each girl has had an opportunity to share her thoughts, ask them to close their eyes again and to think about the following questions: 
    • a. How would I like to be three years from now? 
    • b. What would I like to be doing with my life three years from now? 
    • c. Will I be studying or working? 
    • d. Will I be married or have a boyfriend? 
    • e. What about children? 
    • f. Where would I like to see myself about 15 years from now?
  6. Give them 10 minutes to think. Ask the girls to share their thoughts and opinions and discuss about how they construct their identities and the influence of others on how they see themselves.
Discussion Questions: 
  • Was it easy for you to describe who you are? Why or why not?
  • Do you tend to recognize all that you are – strengths, weaknesses and potential?
  • In what way do you feel you are similar to and different from other girls?
  • Is it usually easy for women/girls to think about themselves?
  • Do we, as women, get time to think about ourselves? If yes, how and when? If no, why not?
  • Being a woman, are we able to realize our talents and capabilities?
  • Do we get a chance to express our likes, dislikes and desires?
  • Is it easy for girls/women to think about their future? If yes, then why? If no, then why not? Usually, who decides what a woman’s future will be?
  • To what extent do our thoughts of our future include our own likes, dislikes and personal choices?
  • How do other women, family, friends and others influence who we are and how we perceive ourselves?
  • What do you think is the role of the media in portraying women? Are these women realistic? Why or why not? How do these representations influence how you see yourself and other women?
  • Why is it important to have a positive sense of self? How does the way you feel about yourself affect your relationships with others – your family, friends, husband or boyfriend, children, etc?
  • What do you need to do to achieve the life you envision for yourself?
  • What have you learned during this activity? How can this help you make changes in your life and relationships?